I suppose it is pretty natural to have times when each of us is tempted to despair. Life’s trial hurt – badly. Sometimes the pain is so bad that we begin to lose sight of any way out of it. We begin to wish that we might die rather than go on living – enduring – what we are facing.
I have certainly felt that way, and I’ve talked with enough other people who have experienced real pain to know that I’m not alone. In fact, I think it’s a fairly normal human experience to have at least a few of these dark valleys during our lifetimes, if not many more.
But what do we do when the circumstances of life seem to press in so hard that our chests ache with the heaviness of it all and there is not even a pin-point of light that gives us hope that it will soon be over?
We need the LIGHT of truth as desperately as we’ve ever needed it in those times, and yet, if you’re like the countless others I’ve talked with about these tunnels of darkness reading your Bible, praying, or even listening to sermons is more than your numbed mind can manage.
How do we cling to the things we know to be true when nothing about our experience helps us believe them?
I’ve been in such a time. Recently. As in, right now. But I’ve been in times like this before, too. I’ve learned a few things along the way and I’d thought I’d share them. When my eyes are shrouded by darkness I need help to know that the light is there even though it is hidden from me. Sometimes a friend is able to remind me of what I already know is true, and that is really and truly wonderful when it happens. But friends are busy with their own lives and the fight against this darkness is a minute-by-minute struggle. What then? How do we get through in a way that glorifies God and doesn’t give in to the lies of the evil one?
Below is a document I have begun for myself. It’s still a work in progress – I keep adding to it. It is a call from the truths of scripture to endure – knowing that even this trial is a gift from a loving heavenly Father who wants me to know him to the depths as well as to the heights.
I hope it helps you – or someone you know who is struggling. I’d love to hear what you might add.
When I am tempted to despair, in an effort to take every thought captive to the mind of Christ, be anxious for nothing, be thankful in all circumstances, and rejoice always I will:
- Remember whose I am:
- “Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought with a price. Therefore, glorify God with your body.” I Cor 6:19-20
- “Looking unto Jesus the author and perfecter of our faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is seated at the right hand of the throne of God. For consider him that endured from sinners such hostility against himself, so that you will not grow weary or fainthearted.” Hebrews 12:2-3
- Remember who I am:
- “And have you forgotten the exhortation that addresses you as sons? ‘My son, do not regard lightly the discipline of the Lord, nor be weary when reproved by him. For the Lord disciplines the ones he loves, and chastises every son whom he receives.’” Heb 12:5-6
- Remember how I am loved:
- “God demonstrates his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” Rom 5:8
- “Behold what manner of love the Father has given unto us, that we should be called the children of God; and so we are. The reason why the world does not know us is that it did not know him.” 1 John 1:3
- “In my Father’s house are many rooms. If it were not so, would I have told you that I go to prepare a place for you? And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again and will take you to myself, that where I am you may be also.” John 14:2-3
- Remember that I am valued:
- “Are not two sparrows sold for a penny? And not one of them will fall to the ground apart from your father. But even the hairs of your head are all numbered. Fear not, therefore; for you are of more value than many sparrows.” Matthew 10:29-31
- Remember that I am not alone:
- “It is the LORD who goes before you. He will be with you; he will not leave you or forsake you. Do not fear or be dismayed.” Deut 31:8
- Remember the faithfulness of God:
- “I waited patiently for the Lord to help me, and he turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the pit of despair, out of the mud and the mire. He set my feet on solid ground and steadied me as I walked along.” Ps 40:1-2
- Expect Him to be faithful again:
- “Yet I am confident I will see the Lord’s goodness while I am here in the land of the living. Wait patiently for the Lord. Be brave and courageous. Yes, wait patiently for the Lord.” Ps 27:13-14
- Ask for wisdom and clarity:
- “If any of you lacks wisdom let him ask of God and He will give it generously to all without reproach.” James 1:5
- “Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path” Ps 119:105
- Remember my blessings and how I enjoy them:
- “…what do you have that you have not received?…” 1 Cor 4:7
- “O, give thanks to the Lord, for he is good. His love endures forever.” Ps 118:1
- “Let them thank the Lord for his steadfast love, for his wondrous works to all mankind. For he satisfies the longing soul, and the hungry soul he fills with good things…. Whoever is wise, let him attend to these things; let them consider the steadfast love of the Lord.” Psalm 107:8-9, 43
- Remember that this is normal for the believer:
- “We are experiencing trouble on every side but are not crushed; we are perplexed but not driven to despair; we are persecuted, but not abandoned; we are knocked down but not destroyed, always carrying around in our body the death of Jesus, so that the life of Jesus might also be visible in our body.” 2 Cor 4:8-9
- Remember the lessons I have learned:
- “And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.” Rom 8:28
- “That according to the riches of his glory he may grant you to be strengthened with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith – that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may have strength to comprehend with all the saints what is the breadth and length and height and depth, and to know the love of Christ that suprasses knowledge, that you may be filled with all the fullness of God. Now to him who is able to do far more abundantly than all that we ask or think, according to the power at work within, us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, forever and ever. Amen.” Eph 3:16-21
- Praise God for His goodness and mercy:
- “For you are my hope, Lord God, my security since I was young. I depended on you since birth, when you brought me from my mother’s womb. I praise you continuously.” Ps 71:5-6
- Ask God to help me:
- “Ask and it will be given to you, seek and you will find, knock and the door will be opened to you.” Matt 7:7
- “Therefore, let us draw near with confidence to the throne of grace, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need.” Hebrews 4:16
- And after I have done all of this, I will fasten on the belt of truth, put on the breastplate of righteousness, and as shoes for my feet put on the readiness of the gospel of peace. I will take up the shield of faith and the helmet of salvation, I will hold tightly the sword of the Spirit and pray in the Spirit. And after all of this, I will stand firm. And when the time is right, I will do the next thing that God has set before me to do in the race that he has set me on, knowing that his good and perfect will is neither to be trifled with nor railed against. God help me.